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21 Confident Conversation Tactics
 
… For The Man Who Is Ready To Win
 
Women’s Adoration and Admiration.
 
 
We have discussed in the previous modules what your inner Mindset
Mantras should be to increase your daily confidence.
 
 
Here, I want to add Conversational
Commitments
- or
Tactics
- to
increase your conversational acuity. You’ll see that I have added very
specific techniques so you’ll know exactly what to say and how to say
it.
 
 
The point of this whole program is not to “give you confidence.”
 
 
Only you can give yourself confidence.
 
 
The point is to give you the mental, physical, and vocal practices that
will help you relentlessly build your own natural and commanding
confidence.
 
 
It won’t all happen in a day, but if you stay with the Mindsculpting
Mantras and the Conversational Tactics you’re about to read, I
promise that you will not only feel different, but women will react to
you completely differently.
 
 
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Remember – confidence is a feedback loop involving behavior and
response to behavior – so every effort in the right direction supports
your journey into being a powerful presence with women.
 
 
 
Note: I have listed these Commanding Confidence
Conversational Commitments in the language of self-
assertion. This is the language in which you should
learn them, repeat them to yourself, and make them a
natural part of your mindset. If you need to, print
them out to review before you go to a social event.
 
 
 
 
Confident Conversation Tactic #1:
 
“I own my will, and I do not apologize.”
 
 
… From now on, I assert myself - my thoughts, feelings and will -
with boldness. As long as my intentions are not grounded in hate or
fear, but rather in benevolence, love, and protectiveness, I
own
my
actions and my speech – without fail, without hesitancy, without
apology.
 
 
Look, if you have hurt someone because you were acting out of ego or
fear - apologize!
 
 
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But
do not apologize
for “yourself” and
do not explain
your
choices or behavior.
 
 
As a former Stanford teacher of writing and as a screenwriter for
years, I am extremely sensitive to language – which has been very
helpful for me to help identify where men are leaking insecurity.
 
 
Following are three ways in which men subconsciously communicate
their lack of self-confidence.
 
 
Remove these from your speech patterns right away:
 
1.
Using diminishment words.
It’s in the culture, so it’s not
your fault. A confident man uses words carefully, and each as a
tool to communicate his meaning. He doesn’t diminish his will,
intent and power by using words like “kind of” “sort of” and “a
little.” Also avoid “like” - as in “like, I was all at this
bar.“ Speak with direct language. If you choose your words
carefully and without filler words, you will be seen as a man
who values your communication. You will be more widely
perceived as a man worth listening to.
 
Don’t change your mind instantly to please another.
If
you state an opinion, stay with it for the moment. If someone
offers an interesting counter argument, you can absolutely say,
“that’s very well said; I’m going to think that over.” If they just
offer a counter-taste, as around some kind of music or food,
don’t change. If you REALLY have an opinion around
something, stay with it.
 
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2.
3.
The interrogative voice-lift.
It’s amazing. It’s a feminine
trait that has found its way into men’s speech patterns. When
asking a question in the English language, it’s normal for one’s
voice tone to naturally rise. However, this tone-rising has
leaked its way into everyday conversation outside of questions.
You can hear it in the classic, “Once… I went to band camp…?
“ The voice raise at the end of your sentence is a way of “asking”
a person to stay involved – rather than stating something with
masculine firmness. So watch the tone of your voice at the end
of your sentences. Focus on ending with a downward rather
than an upward intonation.
 
 
For me, there is an iconic moment in the movie “Get Shorty”, where
Travolta asserts his totem line, “Look at me,” and Hackman asks,
“Why should I look at you?” Travolta simply answers,
“Because I
want you to.”
 
 
“Because I want you to.”
 
 
This clean assertion of will, by a man who has a plan, confidence, and
just plain balls in the face of the unknown, gathers everyone he meets
into his orbit. He doesn’t
explain
his behavior. He doesn’t boast or
try to
prove
anything – in his case, that’s because he knows his
internal abilities. He doesn’t really show a lot of violence, even when
confronted.
 
 
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His strength is in his confidence, and his confidence is in his skill of
knowing others. His assumption is that you will either play his game
successfully, or you will eventually lose, and he can very quickly tell
which way you will go.
 
 
The important takeaway is that you genuinely must not care if a
woman likes you or not. Your job is to be your best self, the self you
are most proud of, most comfortable being. Assert your needs and
wants and following up on them no matter what others do. Do not
shift course to suit others.
 
 
There was a woman who I met in France. When I told her I was going
off without her, she asked,
 
“But
don’t you want to get to know me better?
 
My answer was simply:
 
No.
 
 
I offered no explanation beyond that.
 
 
 
“I shall hereby remove the term ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m
sorry’ from my speech (unless I am actually
apologizing).”
 
 
 
 
 
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